Looking after kids can be hard work but they bring the most joy to so many parents. If you are a new parent, this e-ticket will look at some steps you can to be more effective at parenting.
- Work on the self-esteem of your child
Children start having an identity of their own from a very young age. This identity is shaped by the things that they see the adults in their lives doing. The way that you speak and conduct yourself as a parent can have a massive effect on your child’s self-esteem. Telling them what’s right from wrong is very important.
When they accomplish something, praise them and try to let them do things on their own without stepping in. This teaches them to be more independent and will boost their self-esteem. When they make a mistake, let them know that no one is perfect and we all make mistakes.
Using strong words to criticize them when they make a mistake will lower their self-esteem and affect them going forward as well as how they interact with others. Be sensible in your approach and you will notice you’ll have a child full of confidence in everything that they do.
- Spend time with your kids
The day that the greatest gift you can give someone is time as it is a luxury we think we have plenty of but in reality, we don’t. If you are a working parent, it can be hard to spend plenty of time with your kids because you have to put a roof over their heads and clothes on their back by working.
Many parents are usually off during the weekends and this is the time to show your child that you care for them so much. Play board games with them like scramble, chess, or even a game of cards. If you have a gaming console like a PlayStation or an Xbox, play it with them.
You can even take them to the park for some fresh air, have a picnic or even go to a concert with them. Spending time with them only increases the bond your kids will have with you and if they have any problems or issues bothering them, they will open up more.
- Discipline them where necessary
The reason why parents discipline a child is to teach to control their behavior and learn that certain actions are not acceptable. Kids will always test the boundaries of they can and cannot and it is up to you as a parent to put your foot down.
Having rules at home helps kids understand what parents expect of them and if they do break them, make sure your punishment is consistent. Avoid name-calling as this can lower their self-esteem and hitting.
- Be an inspiration to your kids
The role models that kids have is their parents. They will watch what they are doing and will try to be like them. If you don’t set a good example for your kids like lash out in anger or throw things around, they will think it’s ok to act like that too.
When you are calm, cool and collected when things are not going your way, your kids will pick up on that and will incorporate that in their mannerisms. They say that “treat others how you want them to treat you”. The same way of thinking should apply to your kids as well.